2022
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ChatGPT… My Jaw Dropped (and a Bit of My Sanity)
December 2022. The month Skynet didn’t become self-aware, but everyone and their dog suddenly became an AI expert overnight. One minute, you’re scrolling Twitter. The next, someone is claiming ChatGPT just wrote a novel while he made toast. Let’s get one thing straight: I’ve been reading about this stuff for years. Automation. Surveillance. AI. The…
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Notification Spam Is a Lie, and You Already Know It
I’m starting to dread that little red dot. You know the one. The tiny badge that suggests something is waiting for you. Something important. Something personal. And for half a second, your brain does that ridiculous little lift. Then you open it. And it’s bollocks. Another “update available” from a company you’ve never heard of.…
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Why Men Stop Going to Andy’s Man Club
Last time I wrote about Andy’s Man Club, I ended with “I don’t know yet.” I still don’t know. But I did what I always do when I can’t make a decision. I went looking for information. Read about how it works. Read about the research behind peer support. Read about what actually happens in…
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Pretending You Know Everything Makes You Sound Like a Knob
This is a personal reflection on a workplace I used to work at for over 20 years – where the boss was always right and disagreed with experts hired for their knowledge and expertise. Knob. Imagine this… You’re sat in a meeting. Someone asks a question. Your brain goes blank, but your mouth opens anyway.…
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ACEs Explained – The 1998 Study That Changed Everything
When I talk about trauma, mental health, or long-term health problems, I often refer back to something called the Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) study. This post is here so I can link to it as a simple, go-to explanation of what that actually means. A Plain-English Guide to the 1998 Felitti Study In short, the…
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A Man Club – Should I Trust It or Not?
I keep hearing about this thing called Andy’s Man Club. Monday nights. Men only. Talking. Apparently it’s everywhere now. Loads of groups all over the country. Thousands of men turning up each week. On paper, that sounds impressive. But here’s the problem. I’m in a mess. 2022 has probably been the worst year of my…
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The Quiet Weight of ADHD Shame
The Quiet Weight Of ADHD Shame One of the heaviest parts of ADHD isn’t the missed deadline or the lost keys. It’s the slow build-up of words that stick. “Too much.” “Too loud.” “Lazy.” “Wasted potential.” You hear them as a child. You hear them at school. Sometimes you hear them at home. And even…
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Stop Using Google Fonts – Here’s Why
Google Fonts. The go-to option for anyone who’s ever built a website and thought, “I want it to look nice, but I can’t be arsed to pay for fonts.” And fair enough—it’s free, easy to use, and makes you feel like a proper web designer when slapping some fancy typography onto your site. But here’s…
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Why Digital Communication Encourages Shallow Thinking
There’s something deeply flawed about how we communicate now. Not because we communicate more. But because we think less. Digital communication encourages shallow processing. It rewards speed over reflection, reaction over reasoning, and certainty over curiosity. And when shallow processing meets confidence, you get loops. Endless loops. When the Evidence Is Right There and Nobody…
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How to Lose Website Visitors Without Even Trying
Welcome to the ego circus. Grab a seat, bring a sick bucket. It’s June 10th, 2022, and somehow people are still building websites that scream Look at me! louder than a Love Island contestant on Instagram Live. You click a link expecting help, answers, a bit of value… and instead, you’re slapped in the face…