August 2022
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Pretending You Know Everything Makes You Sound Like a Knob
This is a personal reflection on a workplace I used to work at for over 20 years – where the boss was always right and disagreed with experts hired for their knowledge and expertise. Knob. Imagine this… You’re sat in a meeting. Someone asks a question. Your brain goes blank, but your mouth opens anyway.…
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ACEs Explained – The 1998 Study That Changed Everything
When I talk about trauma, mental health, or long-term health problems, I often refer back to something called the Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) study. This post is here so I can link to it as a simple, go-to explanation of what that actually means. A Plain-English Guide to the 1998 Felitti Study In short, the…
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A Man Club – Should I Trust It or Not?
I keep hearing about this thing called Andy’s Man Club. Monday nights. Men only. Talking. Apparently it’s everywhere now. Loads of groups all over the country. Thousands of men turning up each week. On paper, that sounds impressive. But here’s the problem. I’m in a mess. 2022 has probably been the worst year of my…
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The Quiet Weight of ADHD Shame
The Quiet Weight Of ADHD Shame One of the heaviest parts of ADHD isn’t the missed deadline or the lost keys. It’s the slow build-up of words that stick. “Too much.” “Too loud.” “Lazy.” “Wasted potential.” You hear them as a child. You hear them at school. Sometimes you hear them at home. And even…