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Being Nice Might Actually be a Trauma Response
I’ve spent years telling myself I’m just generous with my time. Helpful. Accommodating. Easy to work with. The sort of person who goes the extra mile without being asked. And I have been pleased with myself about it. It’s what people have come to expect from me. That story worked fine until I did a…
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When Hurting Someone Becomes a Choice, Not a Mistake
There’s a massive difference between ignorance and choice. Ignorance is not knowing that your words, actions, or behaviour are causing harm. Choice is knowing full well and continuing anyway. People often blur the two because it feels safer. If harm can be framed as misunderstanding, poor communication, or good intentions gone wrong, then nobody has…