Mental Health
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Facebook’s Hostile Interface Harms Neurodivergent Users
Try typing a bloody comment on Facebook these days. Your cursor hovers near a word, and boom: a pop-up suggesting pages you don’t care about. You’re mid-sentence, and Facebook’s autocomplete hijacks your keyboard to shove names and suggestions down your throat. You can’t move, type, or think without being interrupted by something trying to “help”…
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Your Brain Can’t Multitask & Modern Work Is Killing Focus
I was typing this article when I decided to take a shower. Before I’d even dried off properly, I was back at the keyboard, fingers tapping away. If that’s multitasking, then I’m the bloody Queen of England. In Summary: Attention Deficit Trait isn’t something you’re born with. It’s what happens when your work environment overwhelms…
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ADHD Time Struggles Are Real but The Advice You’re Getting Isn’t.
You’ve seen the posts. Green thoughtful creature pondering past, present, and future. Relatable meme, thousands of likes, comments full of “this is so me.” Then comes the advice: Feels helpful for about five seconds. Then you’re late again. Then you’re replaying yesterday’s cock-up whilst simultaneously catastrophising about tomorrow’s 2pm meeting, and you realise you’ve just…
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Memes Won’t Save Men from Suicide. Real Connection Might.
We’re drowning in mental health content while men are quietly dying. Something isn’t adding up. Every day, millions of people scroll past a graphic that says “check on your friend.” They might tap it, feel a brief warm glow, and keep scrolling. Meanwhile, in the UK, multiple men die by suicide every single day. We’ve…
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ADHD, Starvation, and Doing Absolutely Sod All
Welcome to the glamorous world of executive dysfunction. Where your brain is so bloody busy it forgets to tell your stomach it’s starving, and your to-do list becomes a to-don’t list so long it could be sold as a scroll. Today’s special? Self-neglect, served with a side of shame and a sprinkling of existential dread.…
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ADHD Diagnosis – Stuck in Limbo Without Treatment or Choice
You know something’s wrong. You’ve known for years, maybe decades. You’ve seen the comments online from people who finally got diagnosed with ADHD or autism in their 40s, 50s, 70s or even older. People who say medication changed everything (life changing, many say). People who say therapy saved them. People who found both, or neither,…
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Andy’s Man Club is About the Team, Not the Title
Every Monday, across more than 330 groups, around 6,500 men walk through the doors of Andy’s Man Club. That doesn’t happen because someone ticked a box on a rota. It happens because teams show up. Yes, we need a Lead Facilitator. Yes, we need a Co-Facilitator, a couple of Sweepers, ideally 4 facilitators in the…
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The Loudest Voice in the Room
Wearing the black and white doesn’t make you the most important man in the room. It doesn’t mean you should be the loudest voice. It doesn’t mean you should be the most knowledgeable voice. It definitely doesn’t mean you should fill every silence. The most important voice in the room is always the man holding…
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When Hurting Someone Becomes a Choice, Not a Mistake
There’s a massive difference between ignorance and choice. Ignorance is not knowing that your words, actions, or behaviour are causing harm. Choice is knowing full well and continuing anyway. People often blur the two because it feels safer. If harm can be framed as misunderstanding, poor communication, or good intentions gone wrong, then nobody has…
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When Peer Support Ends and You Drive Home Alone
There’s a moment that happens in peer support groups that nobody really talks about. A bloke shares something heavy. Not “work’s been stressful” heavy. Something that’s been buried for years. Something that took courage, or maybe just the right Monday night, to finally say out loud. The room goes quiet. You can feel it land.…