Mental Health
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Have you heard of REBT & is it any use for adult ADHD?
A few weeks back, I stumbled across something called REBT – Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy – and thought, “Is this one of those therapies they recommend for ADHD?” It sounded like the sort of thing that might be on a leaflet from the GP or a mental health service, so I went down the rabbit…
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Still Finding My Feet as an Andy’s Man Club Facilitator
This one’s a bit awkward to write, honestly. I’ve written before about my journey with Andy’s Man Club – what it meant to me when I first walked into a session as a member, and then what it felt like to go through the training and come out the other side as a facilitator. A…
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What EMDR Can (and can’t) Do for ADHD
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) is a type of talking therapy that was originally developed to help people process traumatic experiences and PTSD. It’s now also being used for things like anxiety, phobias, and other “stuck” emotional patterns we drag around for years. Why I ended up looking at EMDR I didn’t stumble on…
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Don’t Tell Me Who to Be Until You’ve Lived Who I Am
I’m tired of being interpreted by people who’ve never lived a day inside my head. Never walked in my shoes. Tired of the nodding. The sympathetic tilt of the head. The quick inhale that signals advice is loading. “I know exactly how you feel.” No, you don’t. You know how you felt. In your life.…
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Wanted to Matter. I Ended Up Standing Outside.
We’ve been going about two months now. Andy’s Man Club in Louth opened around Easter, and honestly, for the most part it’s working. Blokes are coming back. New faces turn up most weeks. We’re getting 8, 9, sometimes 10 or 11 men in the room on a Monday night, and men are actually talking. Properly…
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Andy’s Man Club Louth. Walking Through a Door
A few months ago, I walked into Andy’s Man Club for the first time. No real idea what to expect. Just… went. A couple of months after that, I was invited to become a facilitator. Which, honestly, I didn’t see coming. So we got our local group set up in Louth, Lincolnshire. A couple of…
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I Didn’t Ask For Any Of This – You Didn’t Either
I remember hearing something in the news, years ago, about people saying they didn’t ask to be born. I can’t remember the exact story now. It might have been someone threatening to sue their parents. It might have been one of those social media arguments that sounded completely ridiculous at first, then somehow ended up…
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ADHD and the Pain of Rejection Sensitivity
A look. A pause before someone speaks. A sigh. A raised eyebrow. And somehow, before a single word has left their mouth, your chest is already tightening. That’s not weakness. That’s Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria, and if you have ADHD, there’s a fair chance it’s been quietly running your life for years. Your Nervous System Doesn’t…
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ADHD and the Inability to Leave Things Alone
I just lost two and a half hours to a warning (well, a subtle suggestion) that didn’t matter. Wasn’t earth shattering. Not in any real-world sense anyway. The website loaded fast. Faster than most. Faster than it needed to. Under 1 second on mobile and under half a second on desktop. Nobody would ever notice…
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Big Tech Is Stealing Your Life and You’re Paying for It
This video addresses a harrowing question: How much of our finite lives are we actually surrendering to Big Tech, and what is the true cost of our “free” social media addiction? The answer is as stark as it is depressing: the average young person is on track to spend 93% of their remaining free time looking at screens.…