ADHD
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When Every Day Feels Like Work – Living with ADHD Burnout
When Every Day Feels Like Work and Nothing Feels Like Progress! I was scrolling through one of our group chats this morning and seeing what people are up to. One mate’s done a parkrun – he’s getting into shape, doing brilliantly. Others are talking about their Saturday plans. Shopping. Hanging out with family. Going to…
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Have you heard of REBT & is it any use for adult ADHD?
A few weeks back, I stumbled across something called REBT – Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy – and thought, “Is this one of those therapies they recommend for ADHD?” It sounded like the sort of thing that might be on a leaflet from the GP or a mental health service, so I went down the rabbit…
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What EMDR Can (and can’t) Do for ADHD
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) is a type of talking therapy that was originally developed to help people process traumatic experiences and PTSD. It’s now also being used for things like anxiety, phobias, and other “stuck” emotional patterns we drag around for years. Why I ended up looking at EMDR I didn’t stumble on…
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Don’t Tell Me Who to Be Until You’ve Lived Who I Am
I’m tired of being interpreted by people who’ve never lived a day inside my head. Never walked in my shoes. Tired of the nodding. The sympathetic tilt of the head. The quick inhale that signals advice is loading. “I know exactly how you feel.” No, you don’t. You know how you felt. In your life.…
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Why My Body Panics Even When My Track Record Says I’m Safe
I can be about to do something I’ve done a hundred times before and still feel like I’m about to walk into a disaster. Nothing new. Nothing complicated. No red flags. And yet my chest tightens. My brain starts running simulations. This is the time it goes wrong. Not because it ever has in any…
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When a Mental Health Space Said I Was Too Much
A few years ago, around 2017 or 2018, I was deep involved in mental health support. With help from my wife I’d built a mental health chat group online, dozens of members, people posting at all hours because that’s what people in crisis do. No 9-to-5, no “back in the morning.” I was also running…
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The Dog Biscuit Incident: An ADHD Research Tragedy
It started with a dog biscuit. Not an important biscuit. Not a special, vet-prescribed, artisan, cold-pressed, Himalayan-lentil, air-dried biscuit. Just a bog-standard crunchy treat from a tub that had definitely been open for “a while”, in the same way that milk in the fridge is sometimes “probably fine”. A normal person would’ve sniffed it, shrugged,…